Manipulation is a tool that is often used by addicts as well as their families. (It is especially common with people who have grown up as children where one or both parents were addicts or codependents. When it works, the manipulator feels like a winner and the manipulate has an uncomfortable feeling that he or she cannot put their finger on. Ironically enough, manipulation has its roots in the belief that we are powerless and that we cannot get our needs met by the simple act of asking. It springs from the belief that if we ask for what we [...]