Am I a Sex Addict? – Test

“Knowing you are a sex addict doesn’t mean you are bad or perverted or hopeless. It means you may have a disease, an obsession from which many have healed.”

Dr. Patrick Carnes

Do you wonder, “Am I a Sex Addict?” Take the test below to help determine if you have a problem.

Here are some questions that may help you determine if you may have a problem and should seek help. You may exhibit many of these behaviors or very few. The number of check marks is not necessarily a measure of your addiction. Left untreated addiction is a progressive disease.

When answering the questions, use the last 12 months of your life as a frame of reference. Be honest with yourself; only you will see the results of your test.

1. 

Do you keep secrets about your sexual behavior or romantic fantasies from those important to you?

2. 

Does your significant other, friends, or family ever worry or complain about your sexual behavior?

3. 

Do you need greater variety, increased frequency, or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief?

4. 

Have you on multiple occasions kept hidden or lied about money that you spent on having sex?

5. 

Does your use of pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardize your significant relationships or employment?

6. 

Have you engaged in repeated experiences of unsafe or “risky” sex even though you knew it could cause you harm?

7. 

Do you frequently want to get away from a partner after having sex? Do you feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

8. 

Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems?

9. 

Does your pursuit of sex or sexual fantasy conflict with your moral standards or interfere with your personal spiritual journey?

10. 

Do you feel preoccupied or distracted by your sexual thoughts or activity?

11. 

Do you have trouble stopping your sexual behavior when you know it is inappropriate and/or dangerous?

12. 

Has your involvement with porn, online hook-ups, sex and dating websites, cruising social networks for sex etc., become greater than your intimate contacts with romantic partners?

13. 

Do you regret the amount of time you spend online in online sexual chats, viewing porn, webcam sex or chatting with prostitutes etc?

14. 

Do you keep the extent or nature of your sexual activities hidden from your friends and/or partners?

15. 

Do you look forward to a spouse or significant other to go someplace without you so you can more easily go out to have sex?

16. 

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships once the “sexual newness” of a new partner has worn off?

17. 

Have you had certain kinds of sex or had sex with certain people that later disgusted you when you thought back on it?

18. 

Do you believe that anonymous or casual sex has kept you from having more long-term intimate relationships or from reaching other personal goals?

19. 

Have you ever potentially exposed a loved-one or spouse to a sexually transmitted disease and not told them about it?

20. 

Has your sexual behavior or pursuit of sexual relationships ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

21. 

Has anyone ever been hurt emotionally by events related to your sexual behavior, e.g. lying to partner or friends, not showing up for event/appointment due to sexual hook-ups, etc?

22. 

Have you made repeated promises to yourself or another person to change some form of your sexual activity only to break them later?

23. 

Have your sexual activities interfered with some aspect of your professional or personal life, e.g. caused problems at work, loss of relationship?

24. 

Have your desires driven you to have sex in places or with people you would not normally choose?

25. 

Have you ever cruised public restrooms, rest areas, gym locker rooms and/or other public places seeking anonymous sexual encounters with strangers?




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This quiz is not meant to diagnose sex addiction. The results cannot substitute for a full evaluation by a healthcare professional, and should only be used as a guide to understanding any problematic sexual behaviors and the potential health, legal, social and family issues involved with it.

Note: Never Minimize Suicidal Thoughts

If you’re feeling suicidal, immediately tell someone who can help. Call your doctor, go to the emergency room, call 911, or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255). Getting care and the proper treatment can help you overcome thoughts of suicide.