My Spouse is an Addict. Am I Codependent? – Test

Have you been wondering, “My spouse is an addict. Am I codependent?” Take our interactive test to find out if someone important to you might have a problem.

1. 

Do you often feel angry and resentful while taking care of your partner?

2. 

Do you say yes when you mean no?

3. 

Do you say to yourself, “I am the only responsible one here”?

4. 

Do you find yourself postponing a happy and fulfilled life to a time when your partner finally changes?

5. 

Do you find yourself solving your partner’s problems, bailing them out or covering up for them?

6. 

Are you constantly attempting to do more than your share?

7. 

Do you live waiting for the other shoe to drop?

8. 

Do you find yourself giving from a sense of fear and obligation vs. joy and purpose?

9. 

Do you feel that you are the only one who is working on the relationship?

10. 

After winning an argument, did you have a strong urge to restate your point?

11. 

Is the relationship become more important for you than you are to you?

12. 

Do you use alcohol, food, shopping, etc. to deal with your feelings about your partner?

13. 

Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?

14. 

Are you addicted to the Addict?

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Has your involvement in a relationship caused a decrease in your ambition or efficiency?

16. 

Are you always worried about others' opinions of you?

17. 

Has it become more important to be in a relationship than be happy?




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A major challenge in getting help is Denial. Denial about what?

  • Denial about the seriousness of the addiction your loved one is suffering from;
  • Denial about your inability to control another person and fix their addiction; and
  • Denial about how unmanageable your life has become in trying to control and fix what is not in your control, and
  • Denial about how Codependency has affected your physical and emotional health as well as damaged your relationships.